I have a low tolerance for hypocrisy.
The flip side to this is she has always been very good to my kids. I do know that she loves them a great a deal. But is that enough for me? Should it be enough?
Right now I know my anger is clouding rational thought, that's why I came here. I don't want her anywhere near my kids. I want to cut off all contact she has with my children. Well right now I want to cut her heart out with rusty spoon and feed it to a flounder.
I don't think my kids would suffer too much if I did put the kabosh on their relationship with her, but I want to make sure that I am doing it for the right reasons and not my own feelings.