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[February 16th, 2009 @ 6pm]

sweetpeatn
Guess whose son is going to the Arts Institute of Portland!

I'm cross posting this all over the place.
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You have got to be kidding me [January 28th, 2009 @ 3pm]

sweetpeatn
[ mood | aggravated ]

This report just rankles my nerves.

It's right up there with "Single parenting is to blame for most criminal behavior". Someone needs a boot up their ass.

I was in jail. The women in jail with me more often than not had names like Julie, Mary, Elizabeth, etc... than unusual names.

Serial rapists and killers are often than not have a "normal" mainstream name, and they are white men raised by 2 parents.

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Kid's stress [October 7th, 2008 @ 10pm]

phoenixscribe
[ mood | worried ]

First, a bit of background.  My ex and I split in Sept 05.  It wasbad for everyone up to that point; after the separation, it's been healing everyone and taking care of my 2 boys.

My oldest is almost 7; my youngest is 4. 

My oldest, L, is a very sensitive kid - in any way you can take that.  He is aware of other's feelings, very self-aware, and sometimes his heart is just raw.  At those times, he often says he wants to live with his dad - usually after we've had a hard day because he's not feeling emotionally ok, and his behavior shows it.

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to help him?  I don't want to be the mean mommy, and I try very hard to be loving and the disciplinarian all at the same time, but sometimes discipline wins, and nobody feels good after that.

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[September 12th, 2008 @ 8am]

sweetpeatn
My son is 18 today.
This is a copy of the email my daughter sent him. He's changing his name because he wants nothing what so ever to tie him to his father anymore. My children have nothing to do with him. I wish he was a different kind of man so that they didn't have to feel that way. But I can't make him see what he's done to his kids.

I have to admit, my children should fit into a few stero types, but they don't not really. They haven't had the best of childhoods. 6 years ago my ex kid napped them for 6 months, and they had no contact with anyone during that time. 2 years ago I was incarcerated for 4 months. Instead I have 3 very warm and caring individuals. My son is a strong, responsible man. My oldest daughter is headstrong to the point of stubborness. She's smart, she's dedicated, she is never going to settle for anything other than her personal best. My youngest daughter is funny, and caring. She's a nurturer, loyal. A little flaky, but she's only 15 and that's to be expected. I'm truly blessed with 3 great kids.

the emailCollapse )
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Check out my new Community - Hippy Yogini mom. [August 13th, 2008 @ 8pm]

niseema
[ mood | hopeful ]


Check out my first post at http://community.livejournal.com/hippy_yoginimom/.

Please spread the word!

I'm looking forward to meeting everyone!

Asttarte

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What Do I Do? [August 7th, 2008 @ 8pm]

niseema
[ mood | chipper ]

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[May 8th, 2008 @ 10am]

sweetpeatn
I found out last night that my 17 year old son has been having a "netship" with someone in his WoW guild. She's a 36-37 year old married woman with a 9 year old kid. She doesn't work. All she does is sit on her ass all day playing WoW and talking dirty to my kid.


Color me mad as hell.
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[April 19th, 2008 @ 10am]

sweetpeatn
I just witnessed something that made irritated the hell out of me. I think we've all done it before, but this bothered me.

A woman came into the store with her son, a toddler. I'm guessing between 18 months and 2 years. He was still in a diaper and didn't form coherent words. He was restless and running around the store, once making a dash for the front door which is left open during business hours. She grabbed him by the hand and held him to her side while she went through the racks. After a few minutes of trying to tug free, he started crying and screaming. A normal, full scale toddler tantrum.
She picked him up and put him in the car so she could finish shopping. There was no one in the car. Granted the police station is across the street and 2 doors down from my store, but this is also a high crime rate area. The car was parked right in front of my store windows so I could see in. But the doors were locked and the windows were rolled up. I told the woman I would be happy to hold him in my lap and she refused. "He's getting on my nerves and I can't do my shopping with all that yelling". She spent another 15 minutes in the store and left.

I've been guilty before of leaving my kids in the car to run into the gas station to pay for my gas or to go into the store for a gallon of milk, but never ever have I left them alone to go shopping for things I didn't need. I took down her plate number, but I'm not sure I should turn her in.


cross posted here and there


a P.S for this community. Yesterday a lady came in and noticed our hookahs. She asked me if we sold them to minors. I told her legally we were allowed to, but I didn't (and I don't). She asked if other people in the area sold them and I told her of a few of the other Indian places around here that might. She was asking because she found one in her son's room along with flavored tobacco and the bag that his pot was in. She confiscated it. But then she asked me how to use it. "I've got a new bong now, might as well use it" hahahahahahahaha
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Yep here I am again asking for Advice [October 25th, 2007 @ 10am]

sweetpeatn
This week I have received new information about the girl who used to be my best friend. She and her husband helped gather evidence that helped put me in jail. That I don't have a problem with. What I do have a problem with is all the lies they have told since then. Her level of hypocrisy has fallen way below the moral scale in the past year and a half.
I have a low tolerance for hypocrisy.

The flip side to this is she has always been very good to my kids. I do know that she loves them a great a deal. But is that enough for me? Should it be enough?
Right now I know my anger is clouding rational thought, that's why I came here. I don't want her anywhere near my kids. I want to cut off all contact she has with my children. Well right now I want to cut her heart out with rusty spoon and feed it to a flounder.
I don't think my kids would suffer too much if I did put the kabosh on their relationship with her, but I want to make sure that I am doing it for the right reasons and not my own feelings.

Thoughts? Opinions?
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[October 19th, 2007 @ 5pm]

sweetpeatn
How do you go about going from being a bad parent to being a good parent?
I love my kids. I am in love with my kids. I adore them. My life is not complete without them. My son lives with me, my girls are in Tennessee. In my icon picture they are from left to right The Doodlebug 14 years old, Punkin 20 years old, and Buddy 17 years old. Punkin has lived with my parents since she was 7 years old. The Doodlebug and Buddy went to Tennessee last July (2006) while I was incarcerated. Buddy came back to live with me in August. The Doodlebug wants to stay to go to high school there.

My problem is I can not discipline my children. I have never really been able to. It hurts my feelings a lot. That doesn't mean I don't. And most people who know my children will agree they are great kids. They are well mannered, make decent grades, I wish they were better but I can't complain too much. The flip side to this is, there are some issues that I am very very strict on. They know these rules and they do not break them often, and when they do, it's pretty severe consequences.

They know if they get caught drinking or doing drugs, that I will bring the unholy wrath of one Mad ass Mother down on them. Our relationships are pretty good. My girls come to me with all their problems (most of the time) Punkin calls me when she's had too much too drink, even though she is a sophomore in college and almost legal and lives over 1000 miles away. She knows the following morning I am going to call her and loudly discuss the situation with her, but at that moment she knows that Mama is going to call someone else that is close by to come get her and she will be safe for the night. (This has happened 3 times). The last time I threatened to put her in rehab and not cover for her butt if if it happened again. As far as I know it hasn't, and I do have my friends, 2 of whom are cops, keeping an eye out for her.

Buddy is every bit the gentleman, he pulls my seat out for me, helps me with my coat, opens doors for me etc...

The rules I seem to have the hardest problems enforcing are, curfews. "You aren't in bed yet? Oh well as long as you get up for school tomorrow." "You didn't do your chores? Oh that's okay I'll do them for you." "You didn't do your homework? Oh well, get it done next time and by the way no television or computer for the next 24-48 hours"

Not good parenting skills there. Is it too late for me to learn?
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Formula Q [June 21st, 2007 @ 6am]

ravenous_enigma
K, yesterday I started Jon on powder formula, as opposed to the ready feed we got from LLUMC.At times it seemed Jon would just eat the ready feed and still want more, however he would "graze", eat a lil here and there, sometimes taking an hour and a half to eat.. With the powder he's eating twice as much in one feeding and still gets up every hour it seems wanting more......so my question is: does powder formula do that? Where they will eat alot and seem to not be satisfied (so it seems) for longer periods of time (2 1/2 to 4 hours lie on ready feed if he were to eat that much.....he has but ir was once a day or two).

And the bubbles suck. Does that contribute at all?

I mean I had to stop using the preemie size bottles ( 2 oz and lower) to measure his food, now I gotta use my reg bottles cause we'd make a preemie one, he'd eat it all and want another right after. Plus it's easier to shake up in the bigger bottles.

BTW, I am not off on measurements of the water and powder either......in case that is asked as a factor.

Xposted
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It's over!! Well at least the pregnancy is...... [May 31st, 2007 @ 12am]

ravenous_enigma
I have been in the hospital......ok that's not the good news. The good news is (as I mentioned when I intro'd myself, I believe I did, I was pregnant) Well...I'm officially NOT anymore. Here is the original post I posted with what happened leading up to those events, and such:

Read more...Collapse )


Update as of 5/31, when I called NICUCollapse )



So please please pray for us. I'm healing from my ceserean still (and blisters from the tape they used on me, which broke and now my fleshs literally RAW in those areas which are painful too.

And of course the continuance of Jonathan getting better and the hope he'll be home soon.

x-posted in various places
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birth announcements [May 16th, 2007 @ 11pm]

ravenous_enigma
K, so I think someone posted a cool site for non-pastel typical birth announcements. They were kinda like retro-ish and alternative.....if anyone remembers, what's that link? Or if anyone has any other link for birth announcements, I'd appreciate those too. Just please no typical sicko pastel, Winnie the Pooh type stuff. *gag*.

It's late and I need to head to bed!

Thanks guys!
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My youngest son, Coleridge... [May 16th, 2007 @ 4pm]

mianakao
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My eldest son, Kurtis [May 16th, 2007 @ 4pm]

mianakao
Hi! I made this at FlipFrames.com and thought I'd share it with you girls! It's pretty cool - it lets people comment right on the photos. :)


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Pedophilia Site [April 18th, 2007 @ 2pm]

manicmomma
[ mood | infuriated ]

This was sent to me via a bulletin on MySpace. Before I decided to go an post it everywhere else to raise awareness, I went to the site to see if it really existed. It does even though I couldn't get past the first page. How disgusting!

Rena

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I'm not in the business of getting websites shut down or writing a letter to the senator, or signing petitions and shit, but something I read today really kind of pissed me off. Mostly because if you're a pedophile and I catch you in an alley somewhere you better believe I'm whooping your ass.
That being said, read this and check out this site. There's a pro-pedophilia site that acknoledges being a baby rapist as a "sexual orientation" and is trying to LEGALIZE the shit.


Someone do something about this. Hack the site, write a letter to the President, post this in your bulletins so other people read about it.

I never repost useless garbage or other causes because myspace is just entertainment for me but come on......this is just over the line.


Everything below is copy-pasted.....


The website called www.puellula.com. This website is a safe haven for pedophiles. The heading on their main page reads, "A Celebration of the Splendor of Little Girls". This website includes links to pictures, or "art" as they call it, of little girls, confessional blogs, a directory of resources for pedophiles (for "both boylovers and girl lovers, as well as anybody else looking for information about pedophilia and consensual child love"), as well as many other links. This site has a manifesto, stating demands to the government to legalize pedophilia.


1) Please repost this bulletin. Maybe with the wide circulation that myspace provides, we can raise awareness, initiate outrage, and get this thing shut down. We fill out and pass on surveys, poems about killing pit bulls, etc. Don't you think this warrants the same kind of attention?

2) Report this site to cybertipline.com, and sign the petition at http://www.thepetitionsite.com/takeaction/493662088?ltl=1174125902. You can sign this as "anonymous" if you wish.

3) Make your local authorities aware of this website. Several moms on cafemom have alerted their local authorities and many have been very interested and grateful for the heads-up.

4) Contact your congressman and senator. Another disturbing fact about this site is, at the bottom of their page, they openly support Barack Obama for the presidential election. I am sure Mr. Obama would be very displeased to know of this, therefore I, as well as other moms, have already brought this to his attention. If we can get other senators and congressmen in the know, it very well could initiate talk and possibly action by our government.

5) Send this bulletin, or write your own, to your local media. Just as moms have caught the interest of their local authorities, they have also done so with their local news. Several moms have reported back that their news has hopped on board with this and followed up with research and interviews. This way parents without the resources we have with the internet and myspace can be made aware of this.

6) If the information that I have provided doesn't affect you to your core, then please go to this site so you can see for yourself what we are dealing with here. I guarantee you will be disgusted as much as I.

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Diverse_Children [April 8th, 2007 @ 2pm]

kat0ninetales
So when Luna (my youngest daughter) was 3ish, she talked all the time about her imaginary friends. She had one in particular (Fu Fu) who was alternately a boy and girl and sometimes a girl that looked like a boy who Luna claimed to be romantically involved with. I loved it.

As she's gotten older (she'll be five in less than a month), her imaginary friends have faded (actually, she told me they died), and she has seemed too normal. Suddenly, girls wear dresses and boys kiss girls. Society was working its evil on her. I was just sure that she was going to be a lesbian, and, to tell you the truth, I've been a little disappointed with the normalcy. That might be weird of me, but whatever.

So, imagine my delight with this conversation we had on the way home from school yesterday:

Luna: When I grow up, I don't want to be a girl.

Me: No? You want to be a boy?

L: Yes. Mia's going to help me. I'm going to dress like a boy and look like a boy.

Me: So you don't want to wear pink and have pretty clothes and stuff? Why do you want to look like a boy? (All said in a very neutral tone of voice. There was no disapproval, I promise.)

L:No, I want to look like a boy so the girls will like me.

Me: You know, girls can like you if you look like a girl too.

L: But not all the girls will like me.

Me: Well, all the girls may not like you if you look like a boy either. But you do whatever you want. You know Mommy will be proud of you no matter what you do.

L: Except lie.

Me: Oh, well yes. Mommy will be proud of you as long as you are a good person. No matter what you look like.



Isn't this great? She's still not "normal"!
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[March 16th, 2007 @ 10am]

rojomiamor
MY SHORT/GENERIC INTRO. BECAUSE IM REALLY TIRED.

hi, im jes, im 25, married, and have a 5yo daughter.
my husband is in the marine corps, and im a sahm.
i homeschool. we eat mostly organic.
i suppose i practice ap. though i havnt read up on it since andi's infancy, so i dont really have a label for my beliefs/practices.

we are agnostic. and i try to teach my daughter understanding and diversity.

we live in a really small area. where the afformentioned < understanding and diversity > are incredibly hard to come by.

i do somewhat freelance portraiture, along with arts and crafts, and babysit a friends child to contribute to our funds.

me and my daughter are in the icon.
if i left anything out please let me know. and ill fix. or answer questions.
i look forward to getting to know everyone.

< x-posted to random communities i joined >
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[March 9th, 2007 @ 1pm]

drippin_ruby
[ mood | chipper ]



Lorelei is having her first sleep over; it's been all she could talk about ALL week. Every morning for the past 6 days she has said, "Mommy, is today when I have my sleep over party?". Every morning for the past 6 days I've had to break her little excited heart. But not today though, today I got to say, "YES! Today IS YOUR SLEEP OVER PARTY!" She then proceeded to dance for joy on her bed. She's become quite good at shaking her booty.
I love her.

She packed two backpacks full of crap for her outing. One has clothes, the other has toys. When I dropped her off at school she said, "I don't want you to pick me up today, I want katy's mom to pick me up."
I feel so important.

I wish I could say I was going to do something cool tonight, but I'm not. Brent will be in school till 9:30pm so I'll just be sitting at home all alone. Who will I watch cartoons with? Oh well...

Lorelei has actualy kept her room clean for the past week and a half. She's also made her bed every morning. I really don't know what to think but I know I'm proud as hell! I do know why she is doing it though. There is this my little pony princess thing she wants VERY badly. She thinks if she keeps her room clean I'll buy it for her... which I would if I had the extra $15 dollars to buy it with. I've explained to her that she will have to wait until I get some more money (which will be when i get my tax return) before I can buy it for her. She seemed to accept that and hasn't asked for it since. She has, however, made sure to keep her room clean.
I love her.



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Intro [February 24th, 2007 @ 9pm]

ravenous_enigma
Name: Erin

DOB: 6/3/1981

Interests: Theology, mythology, music (lots more stuff but my mind is mush right now)

Children's names and ages: Harley Quinn (age 4), Damien Conor (expected to be born June 27th)

Something interesting about you: I was diagnosed in 2000 with bipolar 1 (and a few other things) (ok not totally interesting), I am an exmormon

Something interesting about the way you are raising your child: To be open to diverse spiritual paths so she can choose what to do in that respect with as much knowledge and information instead of blindly following one path or another. My hope is she'll find peace in this process with any religion she chooses (or the lack thereof)

Any randomness we should know about: my daughter was named after the Batman comic character sidekick to Joker. (In short, I'm a nerd LOL)

Please post one picture of yourself & family: under cut...latest pic (I think) of me and HarleyCollapse ) Obviously Damien isn't in it *winks*
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